BEWLEYTHERAPY: 02 - Get to like yourself
Updated: May 27
When you like you, it's easy for other people to like you.
The easiest way to know that "I'm ok" is to...
...not worry about what other people think about you.
Everyone will have their thoughts, their ideas, their ways of looking at life - and you. The key is not to be bothered by that.
Once you 'know' the person you are, you get to like you better. The best way to get to know you as a person, is to know what your values and moral codes are.
Look in the mirror too. Take time to look yourself in the eye. At first, this is a bit embarrassing, but the way to do it is to know that you are the only person who knows you are doing this. No one can see you. Just stare in the mirror - into your eyes. Consciously relax the muscles in your face, relax your shoulders, your neck and stand up straight. Pull your shoulders back, breath deeply and relax.
Say to yourself "You're ok, you are." Nod and smile.
Then close your eyes and imagine the person in the mirror is you as a child. Look at that 'child you' and put your arms around them. Say to them:
"You're ok you are. It's all ok. Life is a game, and this life you are in is a playground. Everyone else is playing the game too. You just have to understand that people want to win, and some of them will try to win by putting you down. Don't listen to them. You're ok you are. And you always will be."
Don't compare yourself to anyone else. Just accept you as you are. Everyone is different. It would be a boring old world if we were all the same.
Just think, as you are worried about how others perceive you, they too are thinking the same thing. They are more worried about what you think of them.
Stand tall, walk straight, pick your feet up. Get your eyes off of that mobile phone and look at the world about you as you walk along the street. Eyes straight, chin up and a slight smile will do the trick.
You are ok. You can like you.
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Kaye is a freelance publisher, author and certified psychotherapist with over three decades of experience. She is also a writer for various blogs about writing, publishing, travelling and health care.
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