Do you want great and wonderful things to happen for and to you and those you love?
Would you like to try?
First off, think of this. If you have children you'll be aware of the 'sticker' that a child gets when they achieve something - be it that they have simply been well-behaved or done their sums right ... a sticker is designed to give them a sense of pride and help them to know that they are on the right track.
Do you recognise that we still do this to ourselves, as adults?
We do something, then we look for approval. We say something - then we wait for the reaction.
We still look for the 'approval' sticker that people are going to give us for 'being good'.
I learned from my Godson and his special mum this weekend.
He came to her, grumbling, crying and whining ... she asked what was the matter.
"They said I was smelly!"
She looked him in the eye and asked him "Do you think you are smelly?"
His sobbing faltered and he wiped his eyes ... "No."
She answered, "There's no need to cry then."
We all think that what people say to us, or do to us is confirmed in concrete. It's true. We believe what they say is right. We constantly seek for others to validate our existence. We eagerly await someone to press upon our breast the sticker of approval.
But did you know you don't need to wait for that sticker?
You can do things for yourself that make you feel happy, and you don't have to wait for the judgement of others to validate that thought, word or deed we have achieved. If we think it's good, that should be good enough.
But how do we know it is right? How do we accept that what we have done, said or thought is good enough? By the excitement experienced in our gut; by that tingling sensation in our heart; by watching our eyes light up and our faces express a smile; by the relaxing of our muscles and noticing the calmness of our mind.
So, how do you get to do that when we are all conditioned to think badly of ourselves? To get rid of our negative thoughts that are constantly repeating themselves over and over again in the deep chasms of our brain?
So, here goes. If you focus on what you do want, rather than what you don't want, then those good things will happen to you. Shall we give it a go? Write a line or two about the following:
1. The times i've felt the most alive and happy
2. What are my natural gifts?
3. What are my skills and talents?
4. What do i love to do?
5. When do i feel the most alive?
6. What am i passionate about?
7. What brings the greatest happiness to my life?
8. When do i feel the best about myself?
9. What are my personal strengths and characteristics?
10. What have others always said that i'm really good at?
11. How do i enjoy interacting with other people?
12. What would i change in the world if it could?
Now, think of the common characteristics to the answers you have given.
Report back to me in a week what you've achieved and how good that has made you feel. And more importantly, if you've found yourself waiting for the sticker of approval.
Thoughts collected after reading a little book called "The Key to Living the Law of Attraction" by Jack Canfield.